so,
After this long weekend I have looked though quite a few post on this page and appears that so many people have had the exact problem I am having but once they have found the issue there is nothing to show what they found

but that aside, I now have the holy Haynes manual and without puling the motor and gearbox out as im not too keen on opening the box up i have inspected what i can and checked the bearing on the drive shaft and it is good order, I did notice there was a adjuster on it, so I did an un-kiwi like thing and read about it which the haynes manual says to send it to the local Fiat mechanic (haha). so i adjusted it and it has changed the tone of the jutter and suppressed it slightly but not to a level i find remotely comfortable.
So im thinking my new direction is to start replacing cheap easy parts i can get a hold of like the gearbox mounts and the rear engine mount as no rubber exist on the spring part and see where that gets me and then maybe the wheel bearings, but im keen on hearing any ideas that i have not covered yet that would be great.
THANKS